Can’t Let It Go…

Shanna Romanillos
Certified Aroma Freedom Technique Practitioner, Instructor, & Coach
For 12 years I relived some very painful memories around my son’s birth and the weeks and months to follow. I’d allow myself to cry about it from time to time, but then just shoved it to the side because “I just don’t have time to be sad about it.” Literally, once a quarter I would host my own pity party and just wallow in sadness. The release was great, but then after a few hours I’d shut it down and move on.

I thought what I was doing was healthy, because I was allowing myself to feel it. What I didn’t know was that I wasn’t allowing myself to feel it enough…often enough nor strong enough. Part of me felt like I had a right to be sad because our situation can be really tough (physically and emotionally). But I also knew that I didn’t like tearing up or getting choked up every single time I remembered those horrific moments. “I should be able to share our story and keep it together,” is what I told myself.

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During the second week of my Aroma Freedom Technique (AFT) Practitioner Certification course, we learned about The Memory Resolution Technique (TMRT). It’s slightly different from AFT, in that instead of working on future goals, you focus on a memory, thought or image that continually surfaces and holds you back from being happy, fulfilled, satisfied, whatever it may be. To be honest, I was afraid to try it and go through the process. I wasn’t prepared to relive those memories that week and so I didn’t do the assignment and pushed it off. Until one day, I was “tricked” into doing it. A well-respected friend and colleague (Angie Taylor) was teaching a class and guided all attendees through the process. I didn’t know that’s what was on tap and felt like I got suckered into it. And I am so grateful she bamboozled me!

What did change was my response to those memories. They no longer had the same power over me.
In that session, I was forced to acknowledge and fully process the memories, while smelling the combination of Frankincense, Lavender and “Stress Away” essential oils. After a few rounds of guided visualization and scent-induced emotional release, I felt at peace. Something I hadn’t felt in a very long time. The memories were still there, but harder to hang on to. I didn’t go back in time and change what happened. The oils are good, but not THAT good. What did change was my response to those memories. They no longer had the same power over me.
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The Memory Resolution Technique rescued me from that surge of pain that would hit me like a tidal wave. After the intense emotions subside, other key oils/blends are introduced to rebuild that sense of comfort and empowerment to live and be who you really want to be. It was short of a miracle to be able to remember and not fall apart because I never thought I could or would fully get past the pain.
Most people, myself included, would rather go around the pain than through it. But that doesn’t work for very long. And the longer you wait, the harder it gets to truly let it go. If you too struggle with a persistent memory, thought or feeling that holds you back from living the life you want, let me know. I’m trained and experienced in both The Memory Resolution Technique and Aroma Freedom Technique and would be honored to help.